~ What Do Women Want? ~

What do women want ?............




To understand women, the first thing that men need to do is stop believing in the concept that men and women are totally different in their thoughts and actions and behavior. Well, men are not from Mars and women are definitely not from Venus. Open your eyes, and you'll notice that both men and women belong to our very own, beloved Earth. The aspirations, expectations, and dreams of every women are as similar (or as varied), as that of men.

To find out what a woman wants; you will have to find what does a man want? (And every man knows, that, no matter what the cliché says, its not just sex.) It's love, care and affection; money, success and status; appreciation, companionship, friendship and admiration. All this and much more...

A woman wants these very things. This is true, not only about the great and lofty ideals of life, but also about the small, everyday things. Once you understand this, you'll never be exasperated and confused about what it is, that is demanded of you, in any situation; be it, with your mother, sister, wife, girlfriend or a female colleague. Try and picture yourself in the same situation and ask yourself, what you would want in a similar situation? For example after a tiring day, if you would want a cup of tea or coffee, that's exactly what a woman would want too. Similarly, as you would want to achieve success, power and status in your professional career; that's exactly what a woman aims at, too. And if occasionally, you think that you need appreciation for the work that you do; that exactly is, what women need.

I'm not saying that there are no differences at all. However, these differences are not related to the needs; but rather the behavior and reaction-patterns. For example, most women will discuss problems at length; while men aim at solving them at the earliest. Or that, women like to share, and expect their men to listen; which means - not offer solutions, but just LISTEN. And yes, women can cry easily; be it a happy occasion or a sad one, or in fact, none at all. Most men find this, hard to deal with. Nonetheless, this is also not very difficult to tackle. In situations like these, all that a women needs, is assurance and trifle bit of more care and affection.

Once men change their perspective towards women, they will realize that women sacrifice quite a lot, in every relationship. Also that, women, neither do realize this, nor are they unhappy about it. Life would really be far more easier, for us women, if we were to get a little more respect from people around us, especially those for whom we care. And this respect will be given, only if men understand that we are not very different from them. That we too, have the same expectations from life. And once this happens, every relationship between a man and a woman will become much more momentous, enriched, enjoyable and delightful.

~ Don't Forget To...~

Don't Forget To...

by Jessica
(Oregon)

People always have their good days and their bad days. Life in general is supposed to be a great thing that you only get one shot at. I believe some of us forget what life is all about. You're supposed to be living every day like it is your last... Work yes, but don't forget to play too. When the sun is out, skip the laundry for a few hours and go soak it up. Live your life.

We are all such creatures of habit and we get so caught up in the "wake, work, eat, and sleep" routine that we forget to stop and smell the roses. Hundreds of thousands of people lose their lives to cancer, diseases, old age, etc. every year. I'm sure most of them "wished" they would have done this or that, or "regretted" not going and seeing things they wanted to see, or doing things they wanted to do. Young people's lives are cut short and they really do not always get to experience the things they want to before they pass away. So...

Do the things you want to do, be who you want to be, see what you want to see. If you want to tour Europe, do it! If you want to skydive, then skydive! If you want to climb a tree, climb it! If you want to run a marathon, run it! You only live once. People forget what life is all about.

Sometimes we need to make our dreams a reality because you never know when your last day will be. I'm not saying "go out and quit your job" or "take a sick day". What I'm saying is... all the time people spend "working extra" or "doing housework" or "playing video games, watching TV, on Myspace /Facebook all day... etc." is time you can be spending living your dreams. If it's a beautiful day outside, go see the world... go explore the area you live in... be spontaneous. You don't always need TV's Xboxes and Computers to have fun. You don't always have to spend money either. I'm sure most people have not even found the hidden beauty their surroundings bring them. Go explore up a river, or a secret beach, or take a short drive or a short hike until you find something satisfying. Take pictures, because you will regret not doing it!!!

A friend of mine had her life cut short due to cancer at only 17 years old. She was a brilliant person and brought happiness to everyone around her. She had the same hopes, wishes and dreams that everyone else her age has. It saddens me to think she didn't get to "live it up" like everyone else did. I know she is looking down at everyone smiling because they are living life to the fullest. She is the strongest person I have ever met. She did not let her sickness get her down. She had a heart of gold and her smile was always brighter than the sun. She lived her life to its fullest potential every day she had all the way down to her last. She was a great person and had great dreams. She taught me to never let something get you down, as bad as it always may seem there will be something good to come of it. She passed away in April and they had a wonderful Celebration of Life for her. She is definitely someone I will NEVER forget. I will continue my life with a positive attitude and tons of enlightenment thanks to her.

I plan on crossing 10 or more things off my "Bucket List" each year of my life until I myself pass or until there is nothing left on the list. If my list runs out, I will simply think of more positive experiences and fun things to do until I croak. I would like everyone else who reads this to do the same. Appreciate the life you have, even the ups and downs. We all have them, and if you get through them it only will make you stronger. If you fall, just get right back up. See the world, be yourself, imagine things, create things, experience the unexperienced, and most important... have fun and don't forget to stop and smell the roses.

~ What Love Is ~

What Love Is .........


Why do we close our eyes when we sleep?
When we cry?
When we imagine?
When we kiss?
This is because the most beautiful things in
the world are unseen.

We are all a little weird and life's a little weird
and when we find someone whose weirdness
is compatible with ours,
we join up with them and fall in
mutual weirdness and call it love.

There are things that we never want to let go of,
people we never want to leave behind,
but keep in mind that letting go isn't the end of the world,
it's the beginning of a new life.

Happiness lies for those who cry, those who hurt,
those who have searched and those who have tried.
For only they can appreciate the importance of the people
who have touched their lives.

A great love?
It's when you shed tears and still
you care for him,
it's when he ignores you and still you long for him.
It's when he begins to love another and yet you still smile
and say I'm happy for you.

If love fails,
set yourself free,
let your heart spread its wings and fly again.
Remember you may find love and lose it, but when love dies,
you never have to die with it.

The strongest people are not those who always win
but those who stand back up when they fall.

Somehow along the course of life,
you learn about yourself and realize
there should never be regrets,
only a lifelong appreciation of the choices you've made.

A true friend understands when you say, I forgot,
waits forever when you say, just a minute,
stays when you say leave me alone,
opens the door even before you knock and says can I come in?

Loving is not how you forget but how you forgive,
not how you listen but how you understand,
not what you see but how you feel,
and not how you let go but how you hold on.

It's more dangerous to weep inwardly rather than outwardly.
Outward tears can be wiped away while secret tears scar forever.

In love, very rarely do we win
but when love is true, even if you lose,
you still win just for having the tingle of loving someone
more than you love yourself.

There comes a time when we have to stop loving someone
not because that person has stopped loving
but because we have found out
that they'd be happier if we let go.

It's best to wait for the one you want than settle for one that's available.
Best to wait for the one you love than one who is around.
Best to wait for the right one
because life is too short to waste on just someone.

Sometimes the one you love turns out to be the one who hurts you the most,
and sometimes the friend who takes you into his arms
and cries when you cry
turns out to be the love you never knew you wanted.

If you really love someone never let go,
don't believe that letting go means that you love best,
instead fight for your love,
that's what true love is.

~ It Will Come ~

It Will Come ........



When life's largest pressures leave you struck dumb,
Just search for an answer;
the solution will come.

When a tragedy occurs leaving you feeling numb,
Just wait for your health;
the strength will come.

When everyone relies on you and there is no way you can see,
Trust your mind to think with time;
patience is the key.

When you have made it where others always flee,
Just wait to gather courage;
soon you'll be where you want to be.

When it is nearing the end and you're in need,
Muster up your courage;
endurance will lead.

It will come ........