~ Be Honest ~

Be honest .......



Be honest and true
to yourself all way through,

If you are really the one,
who seeks truth
And if you feel that you’re going astray,
Just stop and look straight


Ask yourself,
what has happened indeed,
What has led to that way
and wrong choice

Whether to stop,
turn back,
swerve or proceed

Should be told
by clear mind and soul's voice

Sober thoughts come,
if you open your heart
And let your conscience speak
Only then you will be able to start

The way that was so hard to seek

~ Silent Connection ~

Silent Connection .........


No communication
Total silence,
an endless abyss.

It hurts my ears,
it hurts my eyes,
it hurts my heart
I yearn to hear,
to know,
to feel.

Where are you?
Where have you gone?
What are you doing,
thinking,
dreaming?


There is such a void where
the words used to live
Only loneliness.

The words have gone,
but the connection still lives.

You're in
my thoughts,
my dreams,
my heart,
my soul.

We may be silent
but forever connected.

~ Hope, Faith and Love ~

Hope, Faith and Love ........



Nothing that is worth doing can be achieved in our lifetime;
therefore, we must be saved by hope.

Nothing which is true or beautiful or good makes complete sense
in any immediate context of history;
therefore, we must be saved by faith.

Nothing we do, however virtuous, can be accomplished alone;
therefore we are saved by love.

~ The Journey ~

The Journey.......



One day you finally knew
what you had to do, and began,
though the voices around you
kept shouting
their bad advice --
though the whole house
began to tremble
and you felt the old tug
at your ankles.


"Mend my life!"
each voice cried.
But you didn't stop.
You knew what you had to do.


though the wind pried
with its stiff fingers
at the very foundations,
though their melancholy
was terrible.


It was already late
enough, and a wild night,
and the road full of fallen
branches and stones.


But little by little,
as you left their voices behind,
the stars began to burn
through the sheets of clouds,
and there was a new voice
which you slowly
recognized as your own,
that kept you company
as you strode deeper and deeper
into the world,
determined to do
the only thing you could do
determined to save
the only life you could save.

~ A Forever Friend ~

A Forever Friend ...



I have so much to say
But I don’t know where to begin,
Tell me, how do you describe
A Forever Friend?


Some one who is there, to provide
A strong and steady arm,
Some one who soothes and comforts you
With a steady wit and charm,


Some one who brings joy
Whenever you see their face,
Some one who changes this old world
From such a lonely place,


Some one who has charisma
Attraction and appeal,
Some one who makes you pause in wonder
Of whether they are real,


Some one who,
Simply by their presence
Facilitates the day,
Like the sun after a summer’s storm
They push the clouds away,


Their closeness is an opiate
That numbs us to life’s pain
Their touch, a trip of trembling bliss
We will to take again,


Their scent, a beckoning finger
Teasing us the whole day thru,
Their smile, a caressing hand
Titillating us anew,
And when at last the day is over
And tired we turn in,
We thank God for such a person
We thank God for such…
A friend…

~ Wound ~

Wound ........


Love is a fire that burns unseen,
a wound that aches yet isn’t felt,
an always discontent contentment,
a pain that rages without hurting,

a longing for nothing but to long,
a loneliness in the midst of people,
a never feeling pleased when pleased,
a passion that gains when lost in thought.

It’s being enslaved of your own free will;
it’s counting your defeat a victory;
it’s staying loyal to your killer.

But if it’s so self-contradictory,
how can Love, when Love chooses,
bring human hearts into sympathy?

~ Whisper of the Heart ~

Whisper of the Heart .........



as the light pierces the dark
friday morning, illuminating
everything in its path
I woke up with a purpose;

my time has come,
this is the end of the road,
scavenging through my senses
I regain my conscious;

as I slowly open my eyes
the sound of my heart beating
and the calmness of the land
tell me everything is going to be ok;

could not help think what could be,
if the sun rose with you here with me.
thoughts deep within, tantalizing,
embedded visions so mesmerizing.

tucked away, as my heart becomes still,
once more imagination does it will.
thinking all day of magic we share,
close my eyes and picture you here.

emotions set in, sparking the flame,
and creating such burning desire.
sometimes love is but a game,
we are burnt by the roaring fire.

~ ~ Thoughts Words and Actions ~

The gap between what you say and what you do, between what you promise and what you deliver,
is like a drain in the road. The drain is where water escapes, just as your power will seep away
if there is a difference between your words and your actions.

Ask ourself everyday, were our thoughts, words and actions aligned?
Ask someone else what they saw in us too.

Feedback is the food of all positive change.

~ No Regrets ~

No regrets ..........

A few days more we will welcome 2011 ....... when we looked back, is there anything we can learned ? Of course there is , if we really open our eyes and heart ...

I f not because what we have been through, we are not what we are today ...
we became more confident and courageous to lead this life ...



Often we regret and brood about past decisions – what we should or shouldn’t have done. Or we think of what we should now be doing and are not doing, of what we would like to learn, and it makes us uneasy.

We regret misunderstandings – words we wish we hadn’t said, words we wish we had said, mistakes we have made, people we have offended, opportunities gone by, errors and carelessness that could have been avoided, places we might have gone, things we might have been.

The past has its place and is valuable for lessons learned. The present also has its place, and what we cannot change should not now needlessly keep us from looking and moving forward. Nothing lost or left behind should keep us from now becoming what we can become, from learning what we now can learn.

There are new decisions every day, every hour, and reasons to improve and to repent. Whatever we are, wherever we’ve been, each day we have some opportunity to determine direction.

Each day we need to win, or keep – and certainly to deserve – the love of loved ones; each day to be more patient, more pleasant, more understanding. If there have been loved ones neglected, unreconciled differences, unspoken gratitude, unacknowledged debts, we ought to do now what we should do. If there has been within something that has soured us, we well would turn now to sweetening ourselves, for we hurt ourselves as well as others when we live below the level of our possibilities.

Whatever the past or its meaning, or its length, or its losses, or its lessons learned or left unlearned, we go on from where we are – wherever we are – and become what we can become; with work, repentance, improvement; with faith in the future.

~ Go With The Flow ~

Go with the flow ........



Life is like a road. There are long and short roads; smooth and rocky roads; crooked and straight roads. In our life there are many roads which come our way as we undertake our great journey.

There are roads that lead to fame and fortune on one hand, or isolation and poverty on the other. There are roads to happiness as there are roads to sadness, roads towards victory and jubilation, and roads leading to defeat and disappointment.

Just like any road, there are corners, detours, and crossroads in life. Perhaps the most perplexing road that you could encounter is a crossroad. With four roads to choose from and with limited knowledge on where they would go, which road will you take? What is the guarantee that we would choose the right one along the way? Would you take any road, or just stay where you are: in front of a crossroad? There are no guarantees…

You do not really know where a road will lead you until you take it. There are no guarantees. This is one of the most important things to realize about life. Nobody said that choosing to do the right thing all the time would always lead you to happiness. Loving someone with all your heart does not guarantee that it would be returned. Gaining fame and fortune does not guarantee happiness.

Since life offers no guarantee and you would never know that your decision would be wrong until you have made it, then you might as well take the risk and decide. It is definitely better than keeping yourself in limbo. Although it is true that one wrong turn could get you lost, it could also be that such a turn could be an opportunity for an adventure, moreover open more roads. It is all a matter of perspective.

You have the choice between being a lost traveler or an accidental tourist of life, and ultimately this means having the courage, faith and belief to sometimes just “Go with the Flow”.

~ Infidelity and Depression ~

Infidelity and Depression :

(http://www.bellaonline.com/articles/art46051.asp)

Of all the life events that can cause depression, infidelity is one of the most painful. It not only destroys trust, and therefore relationships, but it also shatters the self-esteem of the one who is "cheated on."

After asking who your husband (or lover) cheated with, the next question is usually “Why?” You want to know how he could do this to you, what you did wrong, what the other woman has that you don’t have, etc. You automatically assume it’s about you, but that’s not always the case.

If your man cheats, it doesn’t necessarily mean that it has anything to do with you. People cheat because of their own insecurities, weaknesses and character flaws—-not just because of problems within the relationship.

After the shock wears off, there are many aspects of the situation to be considered:

1. Does he want out, or does he want forgiveness? If he wants out, by all means, let him go! Never try to hold onto someone who doesn’t want you. Nothing good ever comes of it. All that will do is make him hate you, and even make you hate yourself!

2. If he wants forgiveness, or even if he doesn’t, you should forgive him—-not for him, but for you. Forgiving doesn’t mean you’re okay with what he did or that you have to stay with him. It means that you’re choosing to let go of the hate and/or pain associated with what he did.

3. Do you want to try to stay with him? If you do, ask yourself why you want him. Don’t allow yourself to get caught up in trying to hold onto a man you don’t love or want anymore just because you don’t want to lose him to her, or because you know it would hurt to know he’s with someone else. If you choose to try to work it out, it should be because he is a good, decent, loving, and normally faithful man who made a mistake, and now regrets it.

4. Do you think you can trust him? Even if it were only a first-time one-nighter, you have to consider the fact that when we “get away with something,” the fear of possible consequences is no longer a deterrent for that behavior. Are you willing to risk going through the pain again, not to mention going deeper into depression?

5. How would staying with him affect your self-esteem and self-respect? If you can’t respect yourself and feel good about yourself, how can you work on a relationship? If you don’t respect yourself, no one else will respect you, either.

People stay in unhappy relationships for lots of reasons. They think it’s better for the children, but how is it good to teach them that infidelity and misery are what marriage is all about? People fear being alone, but in choosing to stay in the dysfunctional relationship, they only guarantee that they won’t have a chance to find a good one.

People also fear the unknown, and after being with someone for a long time, they can’t imagine life without that person. However, when a person does things to hurt you, causing or worsening your depression, you have to accept the fact that you need to make changes in your life, sometimes scary ones, before things will get better.

Leaving an unfaithful partner hurts, but that pain heals. Staying with an unfaithful partner guarantees that pain and depression will always be a part of your life.

Making such major changes in your life requires strength and certainty that you are doing what’s best for you (and your children). If you need help in determining what you should do or in dealing with your depression, it would be wise to speak with a therapist. She won’t tell you what to do, but having a professional, unbiased opinion, and someone to help you see the obvious, can be what you need to help you make the right decision.

Infidelity is an agonizingly painful thing to experience, but it can be a much-needed wake-up call. It can be the in-your-face, no-way-to-ignore-it thing that lets you know that you need to let go of the pain and get on with your life. Along with the cheater, let go of the anger, the hate, and the bitterness, and love yourself enough to move on toward the happiness that awaits you.

~ To Touch The Heart ~

To Touch The Heart .........


To touch the heart of someone dear -
though it might sometimes cause a tear
to fall or rest upon the cheek -
Should be something all should seek.

For often hearts - not touched at all -
start hardening and shrinking small.
And then the time - it takes to grow
A loving heart - is very slow.

For hearts expand as those who care -
extend their love and - let us share
a Moment, space or special phrase
that eases pain on dreary days.
Or simply starts our lips to smile
and brightens time for just a while.

The ways and kinds and means of sharing -
it seems to me - Are based on caring.

And though we're often worlds apart.
You still can touch my very heart.
You make me smile or shed a tear.
And I'll remember year to year
Just how your 'touching' helped me grow.
And I just thought I'd tell you so.

~ The Game of Love ~

The Game of Love .......



Love is a cruel game.
It has a line so thin between winning and losing,
it seems to almost laugh at you.

Love is a game that can be elusive.
No matter how hard some try to join in,
love always finds a way to slither away.

Love is a game that has an unusual way of conning you into it.
It may sneak up behind you,
or confront you face-to-face.

Love is a fast-paced game that changes quickly.
One moment you can be on top of the game,
the next, you can be dragging behind in the gutters.

Love is a game without any rules.
Anyone can be a victim to the game of love,
though not always does this feel true.

Love is a game that is surreal when winning.
Everything seems to be perfect,
life seems to be flawless.

Love is a game that always finds a way to turn the tables on you.
Just when everything seems too good to be true,
love has a way of turning it back around and rubbing it in your face.

Love is a game that never ends peacefully.
No matter what happens one side will still feel empty,
in the game of love someone always has to lose.

~ Relationship ~

Relationship .......


It is said that every pot has it's lid. A pot with a wrong fitting lid is not what it could be, nor will it ever be able to be what it could be.

Find the right lid that fits your pot and all the steam will stay inside instead of escaping seeking expression externally to the relationship.

~ Perfect Relationship ~

Perfect Relationship ..........



A person visited the matchmaker for marriage, and requested 'I am looking for a spouse. Please help me to find a suitable one.' The matchmaker said, 'your requirements, please?' 'Oh, good looking, polite, humorous, sporty, knowledgeable, nice talking. Willing to accompany me the whole day at home during my leisure hour, if I don't go out. Telling me interesting stories when I need companion for conversation and be silent when I want to rest.' The matchmaker listened carefully and replied, 'I understand you need television not spouse.'


There is a saying that a perfect match can only be found between a blind wife and a deaf husband, because the blind wife cannot see the faults of the husband and the deaf husband cannot hear the nagging of the wife.


Many couples are blind and deaf at the courting stage and dream of perpetual perfect relationship. Unfortunately, when the excitement of love wears off, they wake up and discover that marriage is not a bed of roses. The nightmare begins.

~ It Makes You Stronger ~

It Makes You Stronger...............



As the years roll by, as the days take their place in time; I stop to look back… look ahead… and look within… a snapshot into my soul.

Looking Back :
It's been said that those who do not learn from their past mistakes are condemned to repeat them. Soberly reflecting, I cast my mind back to the many lessons I had to learn not once, not twice, but several times over, because I simply refused to let go. It gets to a point where you stop running, stop crying, stop lying to yourself - you face reality. It's a struggle at times, but my, my! I look back and realize it does get easier, with each passing day.

It takes me a while to close doors because I believe doors open for a reason, but sometimes we are so bent on keeping that door open, that we fail to see when God closes it and opens another. The ghost of the past can be a lurking shadow chasing our sunrises but with God's help - break that hold! Embrace the dawn of a new morning! It's never easy but you reflect, you accept and you learn…and it makes you stronger.

Looking Ahead :
In finding myself, I discover my future with all its beauty and promise and hope. We cannot change the past but we can shape the future and that's the beautiful thing about life. The rain will fall, the unexpected will occur but it's your attitude about what card life deals you that makes the difference.

Will you see the clouds or the sky? Will you see problems or solutions?

I claim the promises of God in believing that He'll never leave me nor forsake me and trust in the plan He has for my life. I am bound to make mistakes, but I will learn from them; I am bound to go through trials and tribulations but they will make me stronger; I am bound to hurt people dear to me, consciously or unconsciously, but I will ask for forgiveness. The world is my playground and the best is yet to come. Tomorrow is not granted, but my attitude can be and that powerful realization…it makes you stronger.

Looking Within :
Life can be cruel in its harsh reality. I've learned and continue to learn some hard facts. Situations and circumstances have revealed my strengths and also my weaknesses. At the height of good fortune, a human can be vulnerable to misdirection and mistakes. In the rough times, I've learned more about myself than at any other time in my life. I must accept my imperfections and overcome them.

Life also reveals the different shades of human nature. When the lightning strikes and the storms come, the rainbow reveals who your true friends really are. Roses have thorns, people change, and most friendships are fleeting.

Learn to seek happiness alone, love yourself and through that you can truly love others. Forgive, not for the person but for yourself. Let God carry your burdens, sometimes it's just too heavy to carry them all by yourself.

Look within and discover your passions, your soul, discover you…it makes you stronger!

~ Feeling Our Words ~

Feeling Our Words ........
(Words Have Weight)


Words carry energy and this gives language its power and its potential to heal or hurt. Most of us can remember a time that someone sent a word our way, and it stuck with us. It may have been the first time we received a truly accurate compliment, or the time a friend or sibling called us a name, but either way it stuck. This experience reminds us that what we say has weight and power and that being conscious means being aware of how we use words.


The more conscious we become, the more we deepen our relationship to the words we use so that we speak from a place of actually feeling what we are saying. We begin to recognize that words are not abstract, disconnected entities used only to convey meaning; they are powerful transmitters of feeling. For the next few days, you might want to practice noticing how the words you say and hear affect your body and your emotional state. Notice how the different communication styles of the people in your life make you feel. Also, watch closely to see how your own words come out and what affect they have on the people around you.


You may notice that when we speak quickly, without thinking, or rush to get our ideas across, our words don't carry the same power as when we speak slowly and confidently, allowing those receiving our words time and space to take them in. When we carefully listen to others before we speak, our words have more integrity, and when we take time to center ourselves before speaking, we truly begin to harness the power of speech. Then our words can be intelligent messengers of healing and light, transmitting deep and positive feelings to those who receive them.

~ Are you in Love or Lust? ~

Are you in Love or Lust? .......




It's so difficult to tell. So what do you need to know to ensure you've got it right?
Love or Lust


You know how it feels. You probably don't care why it feels that way. You're just loving it. But you do care about not falling for your partner purely because you lust after them.

Lust is integral with the first part of any sound intimate relationship - it's the infatuation (or romance) stage. But maybe you're now questioning, 'Am I really in love with them, or is it just lust?'

The problem you face, if you're asking this question from within that first part of a relationship, is - it's almost impossible to work out the answer once you're in it!

Ideally, you'd have worked out well before you start dating anyone who you need to get with in order to be truly compatible. If you haven't done that then I suggest you need to do it now.
Why is this important?

Because the difference between a relationship that turns into love and one that ends at lust is compatibility.

Lust is all centred around your 'sexual compatibility'. If your partner's face and physique fits your map of what's gorgeous, if they talk, move and communicate in a way that pushes your buttons, then you have lust. And I know how fantastic that feels!

However, if you lack the compatibility on other levels, then when the chemicals start to fade from your body, the lust will disappear and you'll be left with someone who you probably don't even fancy any more and certainly don't love.

Of course, it's possible to fall in love with someone and not be fully compatible - but that's another issue! What I'm really saying is that a relationship that's about lust is almost wholly based around the element of 'sexual compatibility'. And that's not enough for a truly loving relationship.

So what are your options at this point in time?

1. Wait till the lust dies down and see what's left
2. Work out if you're compatible with your current partner

~ Life is an Endless Wave ~

Life is an Endless Wave...

The obstacles of life is like a leaf,
Which stands serene to obtain light,
Let the life move to love the divine...

~ Just A Dream ~

Just a dream .........



last night
I dreamed of you
my heart skipped at seeing you once again
and it was a very vivid dream indeed
remembering all the deep feelings
and memories we once shared

tears flowing down
as I opened my eyes
it's just

just a dream .....

~ Balance ~

Balance .......

Live in balance between the head and the heart
by filling our feelings with wisdom and our decisions with love.

~ You came to me ~

You came to me ...........


You came to me in that hour of need
When I was so lost, so lonely
You came to me, took my breath away
Showed me the right way, the way to lead
You filled my heart with love, showed me the light above
Now all I want is to be with you
You are my one true love, taught me to never judge
Now all I want is to be with you

Allahuma salli ‘ala Sayiddina Mustafa
‘ala Habibika Nabiyika Mustafa

You came to me in a time of despair
I called on you, you were there
Without you what would my life mean
To not know the unseen? The worlds between
For you I’d sacrifice, for you I’d give my life
Any thing just to be with you
I feel so lost at times by all the hurt and lies
Now all I want is to be with you

Allahuma salli ‘ala Sayiddina Mustafa
‘ala Habibika Nabiyika Mustafa

Showed me right from wrong
Told me to be strong
Need you more than ever ya Rasul Allah
You came to me in that hour of need
Need you more than ever ya Rasul Allah
You filled my heart with love, showed me the light above
Now all want is to be with you
You are my one true love, taught me to never judge
Now all I want is to be with you

Allahuma salli ‘ala Sayiddina Mustafa
‘ala Habibika Nabiyika Mustafa

Artist: Sami Yusuf

~ Pain, Loss, and the Path to God ~

Pain, Loss, and the Path to God :-




“ When someone beats a rug with a stick, he is not beating the rug – his aim is to get rid of the dust. Your inward is full of dust from the veil of ‘I’-ness, and that dust will not leave all at once. With every cruelty and every blow, it departs little by little from the heart’s face, sometimes in sleep and sometimes in wakefulness.” (Rumi)


So often we experience things in life, and yet never see the connections between them. When we are given a hardship, or feel pain, we often fail to consider that that experience may be the direct cause or result of another action or experience. Sometimes we fail to recognize the direct connection between the pain in our lives and our relationship with Allah (swt).

That pain and adversity serves many purposes in life. Times of hardship can act as both an indication as well as a cure, for our broken relationship with our Creator.

Times of difficulty test our faith, our fortitude and our strength. During these times, the level of our iman becomes manifest. Adversity strips away our masks, revealing the truth behind mere declaration of faith. Hardships separate those whose declaration is true from those who are false.

Allah says:

“ Do the people think that they will be left to say, “We believe” and they will not be tested? But We have certainly tested those before them, and Allah will surely make evident those who are truthful, and He will surely make evident the liars ” (Qur’an, 29:2-3).


Hardships test us. But hardships can also be a blessing and a sign of Allah’s love. The Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said:


“ Whenever Allah wills good for a person, He subjects him to adversity ” [Bukhari].


And yet most people cannot fathom how adversity could possibly be good. Many do not recognize that hardship is in fact a purifier, which brings people back to their Lord. What happens to the arrogant who are suddenly put in a situation they cannot control? What happens to a man who finds himself stranded on the ocean in the middle of a storm? What happens when the ship that is ‘unsinkable’ becomes the tale of the Titanic?

These perceived misfortunes are in fact wake up calls. They humble. They shake. They remind us of how small we are, and how Great God is. And in that way they awaken us from the slumber of our deceptions, our heedlessness, our wandering, and bring us back to our Creator. Hardships strip away the veil of comfort from our eyes, and remind us of what we are and where we’re going.

Allah (swt) says:

“…And We tested them with good [times] and bad that perhaps they would return [to obedience]” (Qur’an, 7:168). In another ayah, Allah (swt) explains: “And We sent no Prophet to any town (and they denied him), but We seized its people with suffering from extreme poverty (or loss in wealth) and loss of health and calamities, so that they might humiliate themselves (and repent to Allah)” (Qur’an, 7:94).


This lesson in humility purifies the human soul so much so that Allah (swt) comforts the believers in the Qur’an, assuring them that any pain they encounter is intended to elevate and honor them. He says:



“ If a wound should touch you – there has already touched the [opposing] people a wound similar to it. And these days [of varying conditions] We alternate among the people so that Allah may make evident those who believe and [may] take to Himself from among you martyrs – and Allah does not like the wrongdoers – And that Allah may purify the believers [through trials] and destroy the disbelievers. Or do you think that you will enter Paradise while Allah has not yet made evident those of you who fight in His cause and made evident those who are steadfast? ” (Qur’an, 3:140-142).


It is that very battle to purify the self which is the essence of the upward path to God. It begins with self-sacrifice, and is paved by the sweat of struggle.

It is this path, which God describes when He says:

“Oh mankind! Verily you are ever toiling on towards your Lord – painfully toiling – but you shall meet Him.” (Qur’an, 84:6).

~ Ocean of Tears ~

Ocean of Tears .........


You disobey the Divine, yet claim love for Him -
This is impossible, illogical reasoning.
If your love were true, you would certainly obey
For the lover to the Beloved is ever obedient.


My Lord, certainly, I am a weak slave
Who has come before You seeking that which You have to give.
I come before You complaining of the affliction of my sins,
For can one complain of grief to anyone but You?
Gift me with Your Pardon, my Benevolent Master
For my reliance is on none but You.


He has deprived you from tasting Divine love and purification
When he saw you persistent in treachery and harshness.
If you let go of the reigns that are keeping you from Him
He will be generous with you from His compassionate nature.
Exalted is He above doing you any injustice-
He has promised deliverance to those who deliver themselves.


My Lord, if I have drowned in my own sins,
I ask for Your pardon, Most Generous Lord
By the depth of my poverty and my utter need
For You, my Lord, in times of distress.
I ask You by my weakness, inability, and indigence,
I ask You by what Your Books have guaranteed –
I ask you by Your infinite Mercy.



(- Selections from Bahr ad-Dumū’ (Ocean of Tears) by Imam Ibn al-Jawzī -
jazak Allahu khayran to Shaykh Mokhtar Maghroui, who contributed to the translation).

~ Is This Love I’m Feeling? ~

Is This Love I’m Feeling? :



“Love is a serious mental disease.” At least that’s how Plato put it.
And while anyone who’s ever been ‘in love’ might see some truth to this statement, there is a critical mistake made here. Love is not a mental disease. Desire is.

If being ‘in love’ means our lives are in pieces and we are completely broken, miserable, utterly consumed, hardly able to function, and willing to sacrifice everything, chances are it’s not love. Despite what we are taught in popular culture, true love is not supposed to make us like drug addicts.

And so, contrary to what we’ve grown up watching in movies, that type of all-consuming obsession is not love. It goes by a different name. It is hawa—the word used in the Quran to refer to one’s lower, vain desires and lusts. Allah describes the people who blindly follow these desires as those who are most astray:


“But if they answer you not, then know that they only follow their own lusts (hawa). And who is more astray than the one who follows his own lusts, without guidance from Allah?” (28: 50)


By choosing to submit to our hawa over the guidance of Allah, we are choosing to worship those desires. When our love for what we crave is stronger than our love for Allah, we have taken that which we crave as a lord. Allah says:


“Yet there are men who take (for worship) others besides Allah, as equal (with Allah): They love them as they should love Allah. But those of Faith are overflowing in their love for Allah.” (2:165)


If our ‘love’ for something makes us willing to give up our family, our dignity, our self-respect, our bodies, our sanity, our peace of mind, our deen, and even our Lord who created us from nothing, know that we are not ‘in love’. We are slaves.

Of such a person Allah says:

“Do you see such a one as takes his own vain desires (hawa) as his lord? Allah has, knowing (him as such), left him astray, and sealed his hearing and his heart, and put a cover on his sight. (45: 23)



Imagine the severity. To have one’s sight, hearing and heart all sealed. Hawa is not pleasure. It is a prison. It is a slavery of the mind, body and soul. It is an addiction and a worship. Beautiful examples of this reality can be found throughout literature. In Charles Dickens’ Great Expectations, Pip exemplifies this point. In describing his obsession with Estella, he says: “I knew to my sorrow, often and often, if not always, that I loved her against reason, against promise, against peace, against hope, against happiness, against all discouragement that could be.”

Dickens’ Miss Havisham describes this further: “I’ll tell you…what real love is. It is blind devotion, unquestioning self-humiliation, utter submission, trust and belief against yourself and against the whole world, giving up your whole heart and soul to the smiter – as I did!”

What Miss Havisham describes here is in fact real. But it is not real love. It is hawa. Real love, as Allah intended it, is not a sickness or an addiction. It is affection and mercy. Allah says in His book:


“And of His signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquility in them; and He placed between you affection and mercy. Indeed in that are signs for a people who give thought.” (30: 21)



Real love brings about calm—not inner torment. True love allows you to be at peace with yourself and with God. That is why Allah says: “that you may dwell in tranquility.” Hawa is the opposite. Hawa will make you miserable. And just like a drug, you will crave it always, but never be satisfied. You will chase it to your own detriment, but never reach it. And though you submit your whole self to it, it will never bring you happiness.

So while ultimate happiness is everyone’s goal, it is often difficult to see past the illusions and discern love from hawa. One fail-safe way, is to ask yourself this question: Does getting closer to this person that I ‘love’ bring me closer to—or farther from—Allah? In a sense, has this person replaced Allah in my heart?

True or pure love should never contradict or compete with one’s love for Allah. It should strengthen it. That is why true love is only possible within the boundaries of what Allah has made permissible. Outside of that, it is nothing more than hawa, to which we either submit or reject. We are either slaves to Allah, or slaves to our hawa. It cannot be both.


Only by struggling against false pleasure, can we attain true pleasure. They are by definition mutually exclusive. For that reason, the struggle against our desires is a prerequisite for the attainment of paradise. Allah says:

“But as for he who feared the position of his Lord and prevented the soul from [unlawful] inclination, then indeed, Paradise will be [his] refuge.” (Qur’an, 79: 40-41)

~ Important historical events in the month of Muharram ~

Important historical events in the month of Muharram :

(Written by Ghaffari : http://www.maktabah.org/blog/94-dates/822-muharram.html)



Some important historical events which took place in the Islamic month of Muharram. This list mostly includes Dates of birth or demise of Islamic personalities.


* 01 Muharram: Start of the new Islamic year

* 01 Muharram 24 A.H: Martyrdom of Hazrat Sayyadna Umar Ibn Khattab (r.z.a), buried in Madina alongside the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him)

* 02 Muharram 200 A.H: Hazrat Khwaja Maroof Karkhi (r.a) passed away and was buried in Baghdad, Iraq

* 03 Muharram 239 A.H: Demise of Imam Ibn Abi Shayba (r.a), the teacher of both Imam Bukhari and Imam Muslim

* 04 Muharram 24 A.H: Start of the Caliphate of Hazrat Sayyadna Uthman Ibn Affan (r.z.a)

* 05 Muharram 664 or 668 A.H: Demise of the famous Chishti Shaykh Hazrat Fariduddin Ganj-Shakar (r.a), buried in Pak Patan, Punjab, Pakistan

* 09 Muharram 1296 A.H: Demise of the Naqshbandi shaykh Hazrat Shah Abdul-Ghani Faruqi Mujaddidi, son of the famous Naqshbandi shaykh Hazrat Shah Ahmad Saeed Naqshbandi Mujaddidi (r.a), buried in Jannat-al-Baqi in Madina Munawwara.

* 10 Muharram: The blessed day of Ashura, on which Prophet Musa and his people were saved from the Pharaoh.

* 10 Muharram: The martyrdom of Sayyadna Imam Hussain (r.z.a) in Karbala, Iraq

* 10 Muharram 425 A.H: Demise of the great sufi saint Hazrat Shaykh Abul Hasan Kharqani (r.a), buried in Kharqan, Iran

* 10 Muharram 1195 A.H: Martyrdom of famous Naqshbandi shaykh Hazrat Mirza Mazhar Jan-e-Janan (r.a) who was martyred by a Rafdi (Shiite), buried in Delhi, India

* 11 Muharram 1301 A.H: Demise of Hazrat Shah Muhammad Mazhar Faruqi Mujaddidi, son of Shah Ahmad Saeed Naqshbandi Mujaddidi (r.a), buried near the grave of his father in Jannat-al-Baqi, Madinah Munawwara

* 13 Muharram 989 A.H: Demise of the famous Persian sufi poet and Naqshbandi shaykh Hadrat Mawlana Abdur-Rahman Jami (r.a), buried in Herat, Afghanistan

* 17 Muharram 1265 A.H: Demise of the famous Naqshbandi shaykh belonging to the Khalidi branch, Hadrat Shaykh Muhammad Effendi al-Yaraghi (r.a). He was one of the grandshaykhs of Shaykh Nazim Adil al-Haqqani

* 18 Muharram 95 A.H: Demise of Imam Zain al-Abideen (r.z.a), the great Imam and son of Hadrat Imam Hussain (r.a), buried in Madinah

* 19 Muharram 970 A.H: Demise of Hadrat Shaykh Durwesh Muhammad Naqshbandi (r.a), buried in Samarqand, Uzbekistan

* 21 Muharram 430 A.H: Demise of Allama Abu Naeem Ahmad Ibn Abdullah Asfahanai (r.a), author of Hilyat al-Awliya

* 29 Muharram 1176 A.H: Demise of the great scholar and sufi saint Hadrat Shah Waliullah Muhadith Dehlavi (r.a), buried in Delhi, India (date is disputed)

* 29 Muharram 1114 A.H: Demise of Shaykh Muhammad Hujjat-ullah Faruqi Mujaddidi (son of Hadrat Imam Muhammad Masum Faruqi) alias Naqshband Thani, who was the grandson of Mujaddid Alf Thani. Buried in Sirhind, India

~ I Am ~

I am a traveler seeking the truth,
a human searching for the meaning of humanity
and a citizen seeking dignity, freedom, stability
and welfare under the shade of Islam.

I am a free man who is aware of the purpose of his existence and who proclaims:

“Truly, my prayer and my sacrifice, my living and my dying are all for Allah,
the Lord of the worlds; no partner has He.
This, am I commanded and I am of those who submit to His Will.”

This is who I am. Who are you?

(Hassan al-Banna)

~ Events of Muharram:- ~

Events of Muharram:-



PRIOR TO ISLAM :-

*Adam (A.S.) was born and had entered Paradise on the 10th of Muharram.
*Ayyub (A.S.) was cured from his illness.
*A way was made in the sea for Bani Israel.
*Suleman (A.S.) was ordained King.
*The oceans and Heavens were created. (Tanbihul-Gaafileen)

During Islam:-

Hadhrat Hussain (R.A.) was martyred in this month.
Shaykhain Tirmizi & Haakim has narrated from Anas (R.A) that the following verse:

"Allah may forgive thee of thy sins that which is past and that which is to come."
(Al-Fath)


Revealed on the 10th of Muharram :-

The Prophet Muhammed went to defeat Bani Muhaarin and Bani Tha'laba (Tribes of Bani Gatfan) in the year 4 A.H. (Asahhus-siyar)

Qiyaamah will take place on the 10th of Muharram.


(http://www.inter-islam.org/Miscellaneous/months.htm)

~ The Month of Muharram ~

The Month of Muharram :




With the sighting of the new moon the Islamic new year is ushered in. The first month Muharram, is a month of great reward and virtue. Muharram itself means `sacred' and is from those months which have been mentioned as sacred in the Holy Quraan.

Almighty Allah states in the Holy Quraan:
"Four of them ( Zil-Qadah, Zil-Hijjah, Muharram and Rajab) are sacred."
(Surah At-Tawbah:36)


Virtues .......

From out of the four sacred months, Muharram has been blessed with certain specific virtues:-

The Holy Prophet Muhammad (Sallallahu-Alayhi-Wasallam) said:
"The best of fasts besides the month of Ramadhan is the fasting of Allah's month of Muharram." (Muslim)


In another Hadeeth, Hazrat Ibn Abbas (Radhiyallahu-Anhu) reports: "that the Messenger of Allah (Sallallahu-Alayhi-Wasallam) said: "The one that keeps a fast in the month of Muharram will receive the reward of thirty fasts for each fast (in this sacred month)." (Tabraani)


Although the fasts of the month of Muharram are not obligatory, the one who fasts in these days out of his own will and choice is entitled to a great reward by Almighty Allah. The Hadith citied above signifies that the fasts of the month of Muharram are the most rewardable among the Nafl fasts i.e. the fasts one observes out of his own choice without being obligatory on him.

The Hadith does not mean that the reward promised for fasts of Muharram can only be attained by fasting for the whole month. On the contrary, each fast during this month has merit. Therefore, one should take advantage of this opportunity.


The Day of Aashora (10th Muharram)........

Although the month of Muharram is a sacred month as a whole, the 10 th of Muharram is the most sacred among all its days. The day is named ‘Ashurah'. It is one of the most important and blessed days of Allah in the Islamic calendar.

According to the Holy companion, Ibn Abbas Radhiallaho Anhu, when the Holy Prophet Sallallahu Alayhi Wassallam migrated to Madinah, he found that the Jews of Madinah used to fast on the 10 th day of Muharram. They said that it was the day on which the Holy Prophet Musa Alayhis Salaam and his followers crossed the Red Sea miraculously, and the Pharaoh was drowned in its water. On hearing this from the Jews, the Holy Prophet Sallallahu Alayhi Wassallam said, “We are more closely related to Musa than you.” So the Prophet Sallallahu Alayhi Wassallam directed the Muslims to fast on the day of Ashura. (Abu Dawood)

According to another Hadith, it is more advisable that the fast of Ashura should be either preceeded or suceded by an additional fast. It means that one should fast two days: the 9 th and 10 th of Muharram or the 10 th and 11 th . The reason of this additional fast as mentioned by the Holy Prophet Sallallahu Alayhi Wassallam is that the Jews used to fast on the day of Ashura alone, and the Holy Prophet Sallallahu Alayhi Wassallam wanted to distinguish the Islmaic-way of fasting from that of the Jews. Therefore, he advised the Muslims to add another fast to the day of Ashura.

Some Ulama (scholars) are of the opinion that before the fasts of Ramadhan were made compulsory, the fast of the day of Aashora was compulsory upon the Ummah.

This is stated in a Hadeeth reported by Hazrat Aisha (Radhiyallahu-Anha):
"that the Holy Prophet Sallallahu-Alayhi-Wasallam) ordered the observance of the fast of Aashora. However, when the fast of Ramadhan became compulsory, then whosoever wished, kept this fast and whosoever desired did not observe this fast."
(Bukhari)

But, nevertheless the Prophet (Sallallahu-Alayhi-Wasallam) continued to fast this day and encouraged his Companions to do the same.


Hence, it is important to either fast on the ninth and the tenth or the tenth and the eleventh of Muharram. To fast only on the day of Aashora is Makrooh as stated by Allamah Ibn Aabideen Shaami.


Did You Know? ........

The significance of the Day of Aashora is from the time of our Holy Prophet Muhammad (Sallallahu-Alayhi-Wasallam). Thus, to attribute the significance of Aashora to the martyrdom of Hazrat Husayn (Radhiyallahu-Anhu) is baseless. Therefore, the host of baseless customs with regard to his martyrdom must be discarded.

The martyrdom of Hazrat Husayn (Radhiyallahu-Anhu) was indeed a great tragedy but Islam is not a religion of perpetual mourning. Having love for Hazrat Husayn (Radhiyallahu-Anhu) does not necessarily mean that his blessed name should be lamented upon especially when he gained the status of a Shaheed (Martyr), but instead one should convey Thawaab (reward) to him and donate on his behalf for the pleasure of Allah (on Allah's name).

Lamenting, mourning, displaying grief and beating heads is forbidden in Islam. To carry out these acts especially on this Day of Aashora is a Bid'ah (an bad innovation in Islam). To take part in them or to look at them with respect is not permissible.

Dirges (songs of mourning) should be abstained from as they have been clearly prohibited in the Ahadeeth.

Some people think that it is not good to marry in the month of Muharram.
This is also a baseless conception.
(http://www.inter-islam.org/)

~ Kerna Agama Mu ~

"Aku mencintaimu kerana agama yang ada padamu,
jika kau hilangkan agama dalam dirimu,
hilanglah cintaku padamu."

(Imam Nawawi)

~ Ciri ciri suami soleh ~

Ciri ciri suami soleh :



1. Suami yang taat dalam melaksanakan perintah serta suruhan Allah dan RasulNya dan dapat pula membimbing isterinya
2. Suami yang mampu memberikan nafkah sama ada zahir ataupun batin
3. Suami yang sedia memberikan nasihat, bimbingan , dorongan , didikan dan tunjuk ajar dalam melaksanakan tugas serta tanggungjawab rumah tangga dan juga terhadap Allah S.W.T.
4. Suami yang bijak dalam menyelesaikan permasalahan isteri yang timbul bersama jiran tetangga atau sebagainya.
5. Suami yang dapat memberikan pemerhatian dalaam hal keselamatan, kebajikan dan kesihatannya.
6. Suami yang dapat menyediakan tempat tinggal, pakaian dan makanan yang sempurna mengikut kemampuannya
7. Suami yang penyabar dan tidak mengggunakan kekerasan dalam menyelesaikan sesuatu masalah atau untuk mendapatkan sesuatu.
8. Suami yang tidak cemburu buta tanpa asas terhadap isterinya yang mana boleh merosakkan keutuhan rumah tangga mereka.
9. Sentiasa memberikan kasih sayang, belas kasihan dan pergaulan yang baik terhadap isterinya.
10. Suami yang sentiasa menjaga rahsia isterinya dan tidak didedahkan kepada orang lain.
11. Suami yang ikhlas dan jujur serta dapat menepati janji terhadap isteri dan anak-anak.
12. Suami yang menjauhkan diri dari perbuatan maksiat seeprti meminum minuman keras, berjudi, berzina, menipu, mencuri dan sebagainya.
13. Suami yang dapat memberikan penjagaan dan pemerhatian yang baik terhadap isterinya. Penjagaan ini meliputi semua hal termasuk kehormatannya.
14. Suami mestilah bijak memahami persaan dan hati isteri sama ada dengan perbuatan atau perkataan, jangan biarkan dirinya dalam keadaaan bersedih.
15. Suami yang sentiasa mengutamakan kebersihan diri, zahir dan batin.
16. Suami mestilah menahan dirinya dari bergaul secara bebas dengan wanita lain.
17. Suami yang dapat menyelidiki secara cermat dan teliti segala hal yang disampaikan oleh orang lain yang berkaitan dengan isterinya.
18. Suami yang bijak dalam memimpin rumah tangganya dan melaksanakan tugas dengan penuh amanah serta bertanggungjawab.

~ Ciri ciri wanita solehah ~

Ciri ciri wanita solehah :


Tidak banyak syarat yang dikenakan oleh Islam untuk seseorang wanita menerima gelaran solehah, dan seterusnya menerima pahala syurga yang penuh kenikmatan dari Allah s.w.t.

Mereka hanya perlu memenuhi 2 syarat iaitu :

1. Taat kepada Allah dan RasulNya
2. Taat kepada suami

Perincian dari dua syarat di atas adalah sebagai berikut :

1. Taat kepada Allah dan RasulNya

Bagaimana yang dikatakan taat kepada Allah s.w.t. ?
- Mencintai Allah s.w.t. dan Rasulullah s.a.w. melebihi dari segala-galanya.
- Wajib menutup aurat
- Tidak berhias dan berperangai seperti wanita jahiliah
- Tidak bermusafir atau bersama dengan lelaki dewasa kecuali ada mahram bersamanya
- Sering membantu lelaki dalam perkara kebenaran, kebajikan dan taqwa
- Berbuat baik kepada ibu & bapa
- Sentiasa bersedekah baik dalam keadaan susah ataupun senang
- Tidak berkhalwat dengan lelaki dewasa
- Bersikap baik terhadap tetangga


2. Taat kepada suami

- Memelihara kewajipan terhadap suami
- Sentiasa menyenangkan suami
- Menjaga kehormatan diri dan harta suaminya selama suami tiada di rumah
- Tidak bermasam muka di hadapan suami
- Tidak menolak ajakan suami untuk tidur
- Tidak keluar tanpa izin suami
- Tidak meninggikan suara melebihi suara suami
- Tidak membantah suaminya dalam kebenaran
- Tidak menerima tamu yang dibenci suaminya
- Sentiasa memelihara diri, kebersihan & kecantikannya serta rumah tangga


FAKTOR YANG MERENDAHKAN MARTABAT WANITA

Sebenarnya puncak rendahnya martabat wanita adalah dari faktor dalaman. Bukanlah faktor luaran atau yang berbentuk material sebagaimana yang digembar-gemburkan oleh para pejuang hak-hak palsu wanita.


Faktor-faktor tersebut ialah:

1) Lupa mengingat Allah

Kerana terlalu sibuk dengan tugas dan kegiatan luar atau memelihara anak-anak, maka tidak hairanlah jika banyak wanita yang tidak menyedari bahawa dirinya telah lalai dari mengingat Allah. Dan saat kelalaian ini pada hakikatnya merupakan saat yang paling berbahaya bagi diri mereka, di mana syaitan akan mengarahkan hawa nafsu agar memainkan peranannya.

Firman Allah s.w.t. di dalam surah al-Jathiah, ayat 23: ertinya:

” Maka sudahkah kamu melihat orang yang menjadikan hawa nafsunya sebagai Tuhannya dan Allah membiarkannya sesat berdasarkan ilmunya. Dan Allah telah mengunci mati pendengaran dan hatinya dan meletakkan tutupan atas penglihatannya.”

Sabda Rasulullah s.a.w.: ertinya:
“Tidak sempurna iman seseorang dari kamu, sehingga dia merasa cenderung kepada apa yang telah aku sampaikan.” (Riwayat Tarmizi)

Mengingati Allah s.w.t. bukan saja dengan berzikir, tetapi termasuklah menghadiri majlis-majlis ilmu.


2) Mudah tertipu dengan keindahan dunia.

Keindahan dunia dan kemewahannya memang banyak menjebak wanita ke perangkapnya. Bukan itu saja, malahan syaitan dengan mudah memperalatkannya untuk menarik kaum lelaki agar sama-sama bergelumang dengan dosa dan noda. Tidak sedikit yang sanggup durhaka kepada Allah s.w.t. hanya kerana kenikmatan dunia yang terlalu sedikit.

Firman Allah s.w.t. di dalam surah al-An’am: ertinya:

” Dan tidaklah penghidupan dunia ini melainkan permainan dan kelalaian dan sesungguhnya negeri akhirat itu lebih baik bagi orang-orang yang bertakwa, oleh kerana itu tidakkah kamu berfikir.”


3) Mudah terpedaya dengan syahwat.

4) Lemah iman.

5) Bersikap suka menunjuk-nunjuk.


Dunia adalah perhiasan, perhiasan dunia yang terbaik adalah Wanita yang solehah.

~ MENYAMBUT BULAN MUHARRAM ~

MENYAMBUT BULAN MUHARRAM :





1. DOA AKHIR TAHUN

Do’a ini hendaknya dibaca tiga kali pada akhir waktu ashar tanggal 29 atau 30 bulan Dzulhijjah.
Fadhilahnya adalah barang siapa membaca do’a ini dalam waktu tersebut maka setan berkata:

“Kesusahanlah bagiku,dan sia-sia lah pekerjaanku menggoda anak Adam(manusia) pada satu tahun ini karena mereka mengerjakan amal ini hanya dalam waktu lebih kurang 1 jam”

Di mulai dengan membaca Suratul Fatihah 1 Kali

Inilah do’a Akhir Tahun:


Bismillaahir-rahmaanir-rahiim
Wa sallallaahu ‘ala sayyidinaa wa maulaanaa Muhammadiw wa ‘alaa aalihi wa sahbihii wa sallam.
Allaahumma maa ‘amiltu fi haazihis-sanati mimmaa nahaitani ‘anhu fa lam atub minhu wa lam tardahuu
wa lam tansahuu wa halimta ‘alayya ba’da qudratika ‘alaa uquubati wa da’autani ilattaubati minhu
ba’da jur’ati alaa ma’siyatika fa inni astagfiruka fagfirlii wa maa ‘amiltu fiihaa mimma tardaahu wa
wa’attani ‘alaihis-sawaaba fas’alukallahumma yaa kariimu yaa zal-jalaali wal ikraam,an tataqabbalahuu
minni wa laa taqta’ rajaa’i minkaa yaa kariim, wa sallallaahu ‘alaa sayyidinaa Muhammadiw wa ‘alaa
‘aalihii wa sahbihii wa sallam

Artinya:
Dengan menyebut nama Allah Yang Maha Pemurah lagi Maha Penyayang.

Semoga Allah melimpahkan rahmat dan keselamatan kepada junjungan kami nabi Muhammad SAW,beserta para keluarga dan sahabatnya.

Ya Allah, segala yang telah ku kerjakan selama tahun ini dari apa yang menjadi larangan-Mu, sedang kami belum bertaubat,padahal Engkau tidak melupakannya dan Engkau bersabar (dengan kasih sayang-Mu), yang sesungguhnya Engkau berkuasa memberikan siksa untuk saya, dan Engkau telah mengajak saya untuk bertaubat sesudah melakukan maksiat.Karena itu ya Allah, saya mohon Ampunan-Mu dan berilah ampunan kepada saya dengan kemurahan-Mu.

Segala apa yang telah saya kerjakan, selama tahun ini, berupa amal perbuatan yang Engkau ridhai dan Engkau janjikan akan membalasnya dengan pahala, saya mohon kepada-Mu, wahai Dzat YangMaha Pemurah, wahai Dzat Yang Mempunyai Kebesaran dan Kemuliaan,semoga berkenan menerima amal kami dan semoga Engkau tidak memutuskan harapan kami kepada-Mu, wahai Dzat Yang MahaPemurah.
Dan semoga Allah memberikan rahmat dan kesejahteraan atas penghulu kami Muhammad,keluarga dan sahabatnya.

Amin yaa rabbal ‘alamin.

Setelah membaca Doa ini, akhiri lagi dengan SURATUL FATIHAH satu kali



2. DOA AWAL TAHUN

Pada Malam Harinya sejak permulaan terbenamnya Matahari (Timbul merah Jingga) itulah tanda tanggal 1 Muharam telah Tiba.

Kita perlu mengucapkan selamat datang dengan membaca doa Awal Tahun

Fadhilahnya Barangsiapa doa ini syetan2 akan berkata demikian :

“Alangkah bahagianya orang itum dia akan dilindungi dari godaan2ku pada sisa umurnya, karena Allah mengutus 2 malaikat untuk menjaganya dari godaan2ku”

Di mulai dengan membaca Suratul Fatihah 1 Kali.

inilah doa AWAL TAHUN



Bismillaahir-rahmaanir-rahiim
Wa sallallaahu ‘alaa sayyidinaa wa maulaanaa Muhammadiw wa ‘alaa ‘aalihi wa sahbihii wa sallam. Allaahumma antal-abadiyyul-qadiimul-awwal, wa ‘alaa fadlikal-’azimi wa juudila-mu’awwali,wa hazaa ‘aamun jadidun qad aqbala nas’alukal ‘ismata fiihi minasy-syaitaani wa auliyaa’ihi wa junuudihi wal’auna ‘alaa haazihin-nafsil-ammaarati bis-suu’i wal-isytigaala bimaa yuqarribuni ilaika zulfa yaa zal-jalaali wal-ikraamin yaa arhamar-raahimiin, wa sallallaahu ‘alaa sayyidinaa wa maulaanaa Muhammadiw wa ‘alaa ‘aalihi wa ashaabihii wa sallam

Amin yaa rabbal ‘alamin

Artinya:
Dengan menyebut nama Allah Yang Maha Pemurah lagi Maha Penyayang.
Semoga Allah senantiasa melimpahkan rahmat dan keselamatan kepada junjungan kami
Nabi Muhammad SAW, beserta keluarga dan sahabatnya.
Ya Allah Engkaulah Yang Abadi, Dahulu, lagi Awal. Dan hanya kepada anugerah-Mu
yang Agung dan Kedermawanan-Mu tempat bergantung.
Dan ini tahun baru benar-benar telah datang. Kami memohon kepada-Mu perlindungan
dalam tahun ini dari (godaan) setan, kekasih-kekasihnya dan bala tentaranya.
Dan kami memohon pertolongan untuk mengalahkan hawa nafsu amarah yang mengajak
pada kejahatan,agar kami sibuk melakukan amal yang dapat mendekatkan diri kami
kepada-Mu wahai Dzat yang memiliki Keagungan dan Kemuliaan.
Semoga Allah senantiasa melimpahkan rahmat dan keselamatan kepada junjungan
kami Nabi Muhammad SAW,beserta para keluarganya dan sahabatnya.
Amin yaa rabbal ‘alamin

Sahabat, selain doa2 diatas Sebaiknya pada siang dan malam harinya memperbanyak ibadah, Yang dianjurkan adalah Membaca Ayat Kursyi sebanyak 360X

Setelah selesai membaca doa Ini :

ALLAHUMMA YA MUHAWWILAL AHWAALI HAWWIL HAALII ‘ALA AHSANIL AHWAALI BIHAULIKA WAQUWWATIKA YA ‘AZIIZUN YAA MUTA’AALII, WASHOLLALLAHU TA’AALAA ‘ALAA SAYYIDINAA MUHAMMADIN WA’ALAA AALIHII WASHOHBIHII WASALLAM

artinya :
Ya Allah, Dzat Yang suka memutar balikkan hal ihwal (kelakuan), balikanlah kelakuanku kepada Yang terbaik dengan daya upaya Engkau, Wahai Dzat Yang Maha Mulia, Yang Agung dengan Rahmat dan keselamatan, semoga tetap kepada Junjungan kmi Nabi besar Muhammad shallallahu ‘alaihi Wasllam beserta keluarganya dan sahabat2nya



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~ Nasihat Rasulullah kepada wanita ~

1. Dunia ini ialah perhiasan dan sebaik-baik perhiasan iaitu wanita(isteri) yang solehah.
(Riwayat Muslim)

2. Mana-mana perempuan yang memakai bau-bauan kemudian ia keluar melintasi kaum lelaki ajnabi,agar mereka mencium bau harumnya,maka ia adalah perempuan zina, dan tiap-tiap mata yang memandang itu adalah zina.(Riwayat Ahmad,Thabrani dan Hakim)

3. Dikahwini wanita itu kerana empat perkara: kerana hartanya, kerana keturunannya, kerana kecantikannya dan kerana agamanya. Maka carilah yang kuat beragama, nescaya kamu beruntung.

4. Wanita apabila ia sembahyang lima waktu, puasa bulan Ramadhan, memelihara kehormatan serta taat pada suami, maka masuklah mana-mana pintu syurga yang ia kehendaki.
(RiwayatAhmad Ibnu Hibban,Thabrani,Anas bin Malik)

5. Perempuan yang melabuhkan pakaian dalam keadaan berhias bukan untuk suaminya dan muhrimnya adalah seumpama gelap gelita di hari kiamat,tiada nur baginya.(Riwayat Termizi)

6. Apabila lari seorang wanita dari rumah suaminya, tidakditerima sembahyangnya sehingga ia kembali dan menghulurkan tangan kepada suaminya (meminta maaf). (Riwayat dari Hassan)

7. Wanita yang taat pada suami, semua burung-burung diudara, ikan di air, malaikat di langit, matahari dan bulan semuanya beristighfar baginya selama ia masih taat pada suaminya dan diredhainya (serta menjaga sembahyang dan puasanya.(Riwayat Muaz bin Jabal)

8. Mana-mana wanita yang berdiri di atas kakinya membakar roti untuk suaminya hingga muka dan tangannya kepanasan oleh api, maka diharamkan muka dan tangannya dari bakaran api neraka.

Tiap-tiap wanita yang menolong suaminya di dalam urusan agama, maka Allah memasukkannya dalam syuga lebihdahulu dari suaminya (sepuluh ribu tahun) kerana dia memuliakan suaminya didunia maka mendapat pakaian dan bau-bauan syurga untuk turun ke mahligai suaminya dan menghadapnya.

Ya Fatimah,jika seorang wanita meminyakkan rambut suaminya dan janggutnya dan memotong misainya dan mengerat kukunya, memberi
minum Allah akan dia sungai syurga,diiringi Allah baginya sakaratul maut dan akan didapati kubur menjadi sebuah taman dari taman-taman syurga serta mencatatkan Allah baginya kelepasandari nerakan dan selamatlah ia melintasi titian Siratul-mustaqim.
(Riwayat Muaz bin Jabal)

9. Mana-mana wanita yang berkata kepada suaminya “tidak pernah aku dapat dari engkau satu kebajikan pun”.Maka Allah akan hapuskan amalannya selama 70 tahun,walaupun ia berpuasa siang hari dan beribadah pada malam hari.

10. Apabila wanita mengandung janin dalam rahimnya,maka beristighfarlah para malaikat untuknya,Allah mencatatkan baginya setiap hari seribu kebajikan dan menghapus baginya seribu kejahatan.Apabila wanita mulai sakit untuk bersalin, Allah mencatatkan baginya pahala orang yangberjihad pada jalan Allah.Apabila wanita melahirkan anak keluarlah dosa-dosadarinya seperti keadaan ibunya melahirkannya.


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~ Beauty ~

Beauty ...


Everything has beauty
but ...
not everyone, sees it .

~ When Someone Loves You ~

When someone loves you .....


Those who love you
are not fooled by mistakes you have made
or dark images you hold about yourself.
They remember your beauty when you feel ugly;
your wholeness when you are broken;
your innocence when you feel guilty;
and your purpose when you are confused ...

~ Partners in Complicity ~

Partners in Complicity .....


You're the warm feeling that invades my mind,
Hiding deep inside my soul...

We're partners in complicity
Sharing our secrets, sharing our dreams...
Reveling to each other our true self...

And as we exist, together
At the same time, at the same place
Combined, trembling....
With so little space between us...
We bring into union this forbidden love...

My life it's aimless without you.....

You're the warm feeling that invades my mind...
Hiding deep inside my soul...
We're partners in complicity...
Complicity of a forbidden love...

~ You, Always You ~

You, Always You ........


When I see you...
warm emotions come to my mind
when I think about you...
I shiver...
You have enticed me...
I cannot stop it..
and then...
The passion begins burning my heart...
You are so sweet..
The only thought of You
makes me want You...
with just a glance at You...
I can feel this eager burning up my soul..
arising...
tearing my soul trying to get out...

You make me tremble...

How can I want You this much?
This is too much...
This burning desire is making me giddy
I want You...
I want to hold you close to me
I want to kiss You all over
I don't want to ever let You go...
My heart is beating faster...
harder...

I think I will swoon...

Loving You makes me Happy!

~ Cry Of Love ~

Cry of Love .........



I'm alone
in silence

and in that loneliness,
I remembered you...
I just cannot forget the words
that got out of your mouth

I just cannot forget the passion...
I think about you constantly

Tell me something...,

And if this is love...
Tell me why do I have to love you this much...


why cannot I be with you ?
Why is this love meant to be a forbidden one?

I will never be able to be near you!
I will never be able to kiss you!
I will never be able to touch you!
I will never be able to hold you

I will never be yours...
And you will never be mine!

Tell me...
How can I stop this pain?

How can I stop this sorrow...

How can I stop this Cry of Love
that floods my heart....

~ Unforgivable Behavior ~

Unforgivable Behavior .........

(http://www.facebook.com/Kate-Woods)



It is said that to err is human but to forgive is divine. That’s an interesting concept and a very open minded way to behave but I’m not sure that it’s always logical. It seems like these days there are just some things that people do to each other that are unforgivable. According to The World Dictionary on Dictionary.com the definition of Unforgivable is so bad as to be unable to be excused or pardoned. Sure, all people make some mistakes but when the mistakes become the norm and acceptable behavior becomes the exception then to err is human just may not apply.

moth When someone’s human errors and insensitive behavior is the norm isn’t that a sign that maybe that person simply lacks the ability to behave appropriately? When a person lacks humanity and scruples and morals perhaps it is then that they cease to be part of the human race and become a member of the animal kingdom. It is then that their behavior often becomes unforgivable. It is unforgivable to be blessed to have a life as the top life form on earth and to ignore that fact, not live up to that fact and to instead choose to behave like an animal. People who have no conscience, who recklessly and consistently mistreat their family, friends and significant others lack humanity and therefore their indiscretions may be viewed by the victims of their insensitivity and bad behavior as unforgivable.

As you read this are you the culprit or are you the victim? Can you see yourself in the descriptions above? If you do unforgivable things then you should realize that eventually no matter what your reasons are for doing them and no matter how many times you apologize your actions may eventually become unforgivable to those you hurt. Perhaps you should give that some thought and start on a path to self-improvement because eventually when you’ve hurt enough people over and over your world will get smaller and smaller as people around you begin to see through your façade and realize you are just an animal disguised as a man. Apologies are just words if they are given over and over again in response to committing the same indiscretions. Eventually they just become words strung together that have no meaning and the very fact that they are spoken again and again for the same indiscretions and are expected to be accepted as truth is both insulting and unforgivable. At some point people will identify what you say and do as the bad behavior of a Bullshitter. If you’re not sure if someone you know fits the criteria here’s a riddle to help you make a determination.

What spins, spews and digs all at the same time? Answer – a Bullshitter –He spins a line of bull in his head, spews it out of his mouth every time he speaks and eventually digs an imaginary hole for either himself or a trusting believer with his nonsense and lies, insincere promises and apologies.

Some things are not unforgivable the first time or even the second time but at some point repetition makes them unforgivable. Some things are not equally unforgivable when the culprit is in need of medical attention. But some things really are unforgivable instantly and some behavior really is unforgivable instantly but everyone has there own threshold of just how much bullshit they are willing to put up with before their internal alarm goes off and they decide enough is enough and they identify rude, insensitive, bad behavior as UNFORGIVABLE BEHAVIOR. It a Matter of the Heart - Your Heart!

~ Healing The Soul ~

Healing the Soul.......



One of the mysteries of life, as you know,
is how to take action to heal the soul.
These growing pains are what you endure,
until you discover a miraculous cure.

From your past lives you may bring along clutter,
some you can handle, while others you shudder.
And to heal the soul, it may take a lifetime,
but once you succeed, oh you will shine!

You must be determined to reach this goal,
totally focused about healing the soul.
You must be willing to release and let go,
flaws or weak points and to go with the flow.

And to journey within to your inner self,
For your inner knowing is that quiet voice,
that gives you options to make the right choice.

When you heal the soul, you will feel such joy,
it's much like a child with a brand new toy.
Each day feels fresh with the sun shining bright,
so by healing the soul you will soar to new heights.

Everything will tinkle like music to your ears,
strength you will gain to build confidence without fear.
You'll blossom with radiance continuing to grow,
when laughter and serenity will be yours to know.

~ Silence ~

Silence Speaks ......



Silence is not silent.
Silence speaks.

It speaks most eloquently.
Silence is not still.
Silence leads.
It leads most perfectly.

~ Suffering ~

Suffering ..........



True,
suffering has reality in it.

Who denies it?
But the transcendence of suffering
Also has reality in it.

Who can disbelieve it?

~ Today ~

Today .........




I woke up early today,
excited over all I get to do
before the clock strikes midnight.

I have responsibilities to fulfil today.
I am important.
My job is to choose what kind of day I am going to have.

Today I can complain because the weather is rainy or
I can be thankful that the grass is getting watered for free.

Today I can feel sad that I don't have more money or...
I can be glad that my finances encourage me to plan my
purchases wisely and guide me away from waste.

Today I can grumble about my health or...
I can rejoice that I am alive.

Today I can lament over all that my parents didn't
give me when I was growing up or...
I can feel grateful that they allowed me to be born.

Today I can cry because roses have thorns or...
Or can celebrate that thorns have roses.

Today I can mourn my lack of friends or...
I can excitedly embark upon a quest to discover new relationships.

Today I can whine because I have to go to work or...
I can shout for joy because I have a job to do.

Today I can complain because I have to go to school or...
eagerly open my mind and fill it with rich new titbits of knowledge.

Today I can murmur dejectedly because I have to do housework or
I can appreciate that I have a place to call home.

Today stretches ahead of me, waiting to be shaped.
And here I am, the sculptor who gets to do the shaping.

What today will be like is up to me.
I get to choose what kind of day I will have!

~ The People You Need ~

" The Universe doesn't give you the people you want,
it gives you the people you NEED .....
- To help you, to hurt you, to leave you, to love you
and to make you into the person
you were meant to be. "

~ Our Loe ~

Our Love .........



We have so much love in this world,
and we have so much love in our hearts,
and sometimes we forget.


Sometimes we think there isn't enough,
or there is just a small amount.
So we hoard what we have,
or we are afraid to let it go.
We are afraid to let it out.


But those of us who are willing to learn,
realise that the more love we allow to flow out from us,
the more there is within us and the more we receive.
It is endless and timeless.


Love is really the most powerful healing force that there is.
Without love we could not survive at all.
If little babies are not given love and affection,
they wither and die.


Most of us think we can survive without love,
but we cannot.


Love for ourselves is the power that heals us.
Practice as much as you can.

~ The other side of now ~

The other side of now .......


Can you throw yourself over
the edge
of the moment?
Cross the divide
between where you've been
and where you might begin
a new direction?


You can see it plainly,
the path behind
-lake gleaming in the sun
dark shadows beneath the rocks,
holes plunging into the past-
but ahead, around the bend
is only sky,
blue with promise
and only smallest clouds on the horizon
to signal storms ahead.


You sit on a rock, quiet,
eat cherries,
drink cool, clear water
and think.

Going ahead is not the question.
It's how you see it, whether
to continue or
to throw yourself ahead
into the mystery
with no maps
no charts
only hope


that the way will open before you
with some sign,
lucky penny or smooth, sleek rock
or tree alight with gold at sunset
to tell you to have faith
to take your bearings
from a newer
brighter star.

~ Along The Way 2011 ~

Along the Way ........



Along the way,
a moment shimmers into being,
frames itself
to image where you are.
You see it in an instant,
choose aperture and shutter
to best expose the secret
opening in your lens,
in clearest shades
of light and shadow.

Some images are signposts,
a mark
of where you've been,
and others, guides
to where you've yet to go.
Destination never was the point,
for any line is many points,
each an opportunity
to stop
and turn
and look at what you find,
and what finds you,
along the way.

What matters is how
–not when or where,
or even what–
you see.

With each exposure
grows an attitude of seeing
not the surface,
but the light
which opens,
pulsing
from the center.
And together,
these moments make
a luminous arrangement,
a constellation
to brighten midnight skies
for those you've met,
and known,
and loved
along your way.

~ Wings ~

Wings .......


You led the way
toward the unthinkable,
so I could open my eyes
and stare fear in the face,
watch it shrink into a ball
and roll away,
leaving a path of flowers
in full bloom.

I took wing
to find you, in the cold clear air,
never thinking my feet would
curl beneath me,
my arms sprout muscled feathers
and fly beyond my old horizons.
I chased after you
and found
myself,
while you looked on, bewildered
from the cloud you sheltered in.

I circled in the sky, hunting for you,
then out you came,
suddenly, after nine long months,
and popped up in my arms, giving me
such a hug I thought my breath would stop.
We flew on, our circles tracking,
until, feathers touching,
we head toward sunrise
together.

No matter that our paths may lead
north or south
in opposite directions-
each to her own way,
we fly secure,
knowing the other is
a feather flight away.

~ Tree Song ~

Tree song ......



Pruning is over-
now begins the growing.
Call forth energy
from deep roots,
stretch limbs,
feel buds begin to swell,
reach for wind and sun.

As you leaf,
understand that
under your green canopy,
flowers will grow in your shade,
and even in winter,
roots will store food
to feed the burst
of spring.
So in fall, paint your colors boldly,
brilliant reds and golds,
and put your seeds to slumber,
preparing for spring.

In your time of flowering,
or with naked branches,
do not fear the rain,
or the coldest winds,
but stand tall,
look to the horizon,
watch the sun set
and the sun rise.
From your center,
feel each fracture in your bark
find its way to heal.

Remember this:
Leaves know
when they must fall,
and when to bud,
just as the seed knows
when to put forth its first true leaves.

~ New Day (2011) ~

New Day ......


You have to wake up in the morning
and open your blinds to a new day,
look past those
preconceptions that line the window,
and open it wide
to smell the fresh air
and listen to the birds sing a greeting.


Make sure you find a lucky penny
somewhere,
even if you have to choose one
you've saved from a rainy day
to remind you to be on the lookout
for the miracle about to be born.


You don't want to miss it
thinking about yesterday
worrying about tomorrow.


Miracles only happen
when you square your eye
to the power of things

~ Towards the Light ~

Towards the Light .......

By moonlight,
or starlight,
or in the sun's bright rays,
I journey,
guiding my way
by keeping
to the light
as best I can.

Sometimes all seems dark,
then I remember
how the poppy turns its head,
follows the sun's passage across the sky,
then rests in night's cool shadows,
bowing in thanks
to the power
makes the stalk
stand straight and strong,
drawing deep from its roots
a wine dark love.

In moonlight,
the garden glows,
silvering the poppies.

And even by starlight
you can tell
shades of darkness
if you try.

So do not lose heart
when vision dims.

Journey forth
as best you can-
bloom when you are able,
rest when you must,
keep faith,
keep always
towards the light.

~ Parallax ~

Parallax ........

You never know
What will change the world-
a word lightly spoken,
a touch from a stranger,
a glance from someone
or a flower opening in your garden.

What you do know
down deep in your bones
is that the cells have
lined up in a new arrangement,
muscles grown
where before was weak and hollow,
and when you woke up this morning,
something else was on your mind
because the old furniture had moved
around to make room.

A momentary alignment of planets
has opened a door somewhere.

You never know how or when,
only that it means
Everything.

~ Biarkan ~

Biarkan ..........




Biarkan saja...
masa berlalu
kita tidak mampu untuk mengejarnya
hanya lakukan apa yang patut dilakukan


biarkan saja ...
apa yang hendak dia lakukan
kita hanya mampu melihat
tanpa
berkata apa


biarkan saja ...
apa yang dia kejarkan
kita tidak mampu untuk menahannya


biarkan saja ....
apa yang ia ingin miliki
kita tidak mampu untuk menghalangnya


biarkan saja ...
kita hanya ada mata untuk melihat
ada teliga untuk mendengar
dan ada tangan untuk berdoa


biarkan saja ...


sesungguhnya kita tidak berdaya
hanya pada Allah kita memohon
agar tidak menjadi orang yang alpa
dan hanya menuruti nafsu

~ Dua Kejahatan Disegerakan Balasannya Di Dunia ~

Dua Kejahatan Disegerakan Balasannya Di Dunia..........



Sabda Rasulullah bermaksud: “Dua kejahatan yang disegerakan balasan di dunia adalah zina dan menderhaka kepada dua ibu bapa.”
(Hadis riwayat at-Tirmizi)

Berdasarkan hadis di atas jelaslah bahawa balasan kepada kedua-dua maksiat tersebut di atas akan mendapat balasannya secara tunai di dunia ini sebelum azab yang lebih dahsyat akan diterimanya di hari akhirat nanti.

Dua dosa besar iaitu melakukan zina dan menderhaka kepada dua orang tua adalah perbuatan dosa yang tidak ditangguhkan Allah hingga hari kiamat tetapi diberi balasan kerana perbuatan tersebut merosakkan keturunan dan menafikan hak dan kemuliaan orang tua yang melahirkan dan membesarkannya.

Pertama : Kejahatan zina.

Dalam sebuah hadis, baginda Shallallahu 'Alaihi Wasallam ada bersabda maksudnya : "Wahai orang yang beriman, takutilah kamu akan zina, kerana akibat daripadanya ada enam perkara, tiga di dunia dan tiga lagi akan berlaku di akhirat.

Ada pun yang berlaku di dunia ialah :

1. kehilangan keceriaan wajah,

2. pendek umur dan

3. sentiasa dalam keadaan susah.


Manakala tiga balasan di akhirat ialah :

1. kemurkaan Allah,

2. balasan yang buruk, juga

3. azab di Neraka. "

Rasulullah menjelaskan bahawa apabila seseorang itu berzina, maka akan keluarlah iman daripada dirinya seumpama awan yang melindungi atas kepalanya, kemudian apabila ia hilang, iman itu kembali semula.

Dalam sebuah hadis lain, riwayat Al-Hakim, baginda bersabda maksudnya : "Barang siapa berzina ataupun minum arak, Allah cabutkan daripadanya iman, seumpama manusia menanggalkan pakaian daripada kepalanya."

Hadis-hadis di atas dan juga hadis-hadis lain yang tidak dijelaskan di sini menyatakan bahawa seorang hamba yang melakukan zina, imannya telah keluar daripada dirinya. Bermaksud andainya dia benar-benar beriman kepada Allah, dia tidak akan berzina.

Apabila seseorang itu telah terjebak dengan zina, dia akan ketagih dan sentiasa terangsang. Tidak ada sesuatu pun yang hendak ditakutkan, lebih-lebih lagi sekiranya kedua-dua pihak pandai menyimpan rahsia, tidak mengandung dan tidak ditangkap basah. Walaupun demikian, sekiranya seseorang itu benar-benar beriman kepada Allah dan memahami hukum syariah, dia akan memahami bahawa zina itu adalah termasuk dalam salah satu dosa besar yang membinasakan.

Sekiranya seseorang itu terlepas daripada balasan dunia, kerana undang-undang itu tidak dilaksanakan, tiada undang-undang zina atau kerana sebab lain, balasan di akhirat tetap sedia menanti kecuali mereka yang bertaubat.

Allah berfirman maksudnya : "Mereka yang tidak menyembah Tuhan yang lain selain Allah, dan tidak membunuh jiwa yang diharamkan Allah kecuali dengan alasan yang benar, dan tidak berzina, barang siapa yang melakukan demikian, nescaya dia mendapat balasan dosanya, akan digandakan azab untuknya pada hari kiamat dan dia akan kekal dalam azab itu dalam keadaan hina, kecuali mereka yang bertaubat, beriman dan mengerjakan amalan soleh, kejahatan mereka diganti oleh Allah dengan kebajikan. Allah maha pengampun lagi maha penyayang."
(Surah al- Furqan ayat 68-70).

Bukan sahaja perbuatan zina itu larangan Allah, bahkan berjinak-jinak dengan punca-punca terjadinya zina juga dilarang.

Firman Allah s.w.t maksudnya : "Jangan kamu hampiri perbuatan zina kerana ia adalah kejahatan yang sangat keji dan sejahat-jahat jalan."
(Surah Al-Isra’ ayat 32)

Imam Ahmad mengatakan:
”Aku tidak tahu ada dosa yang lebih besar setelah membunuh jiwa daripada zina.”

Kepapaan boleh berlaku kerana perbuatan zina menyebabkan lahirnya anak zina yang tiada hak untuk mendapat harta pusaka.

Sabda Rasulullah Shallallahu 'Alaihi Wasallam maksudnya : ”Yang paling banyak menjerumuskan manusia ke dalam Neraka adalah mulut dan kemaluan.” (Riwayat Tirmizi)

Ibnu Mas’ud r.a berkata: ”Tidaklah muncul riba dan zina pada suatu daerah kecuali Allah akan mengizinkan kehancurannya.”

Akibat daripada berleluasanya zina maka lahir penyakit berjangkit dan kerosakan akhlak dalam masyarakat. Ia menimbulkan pecah belah keluarga dan krisis rumah tangga. Dan kerosakan keturunan manusia dengan lahirnya anak tak sah taraf (anak luar nikah). Kesemua ini menyebabkan keruntuhan budaya dan tamadun hidup manusia. Apabila berlaku demikian, hati tertutup untuk menerima taufiq dan hidayah daripada Allah s.a.w. Memohonlah keampunan daripada Allah s.w.t. atas segala kemungkaran yang telah dilakukan dengan sebenar-benar taubat (taubat nasuha).

Islam memandang jenayah zina sebagai satu jenayah yang sangat keji dan tidak bermoral. Ia bukan sahaja membiakkan penyakit berjangkit seperti AIDS dan Siplis tetapi juga merosakkan sistem kekeluargaan, menghancurkan rumahtangga, menimbulkan ketidakharmonian dalam masyarakat, melahirkan jenayah rogol yang berleluasa, wujudnya anak luar nikah tanpa bapa sekaligus membawa kepada pembunuhan bayi yang tidak berdosa.

Sabda Nabi Shallallahu 'Alaihi Wasallam maksudnya : "Jika zina dan riba sudah muncul di suatu qaryah bererti mereka sudah menghalalkan diri mereka untuk diseksa oleh Allah s.w.t."

Sabda Nabi Shallallahu 'Alaihi Wasallam lagi maksudnya : “Tidak ada sebarang dosa yang lebih besar selepas syirik selain daripada setitik air mani yang ditumpahkan oleh seseorang ke dalam rahim yang tidak halal baginya”.

Sebuah lagi hadis maksudnya : “ Sesungguhnya tujuh petala langit dan bumi mengutuk orang yang berzina dan bau kemaluan pelacur di dalam Neraka dapat mengganggu ahli Neraka kerana sangat busuknya. ”

Firman Allah s.w.t maksudnya : "Dan janganlah kamu menghampiri zina, (kerana) sesungguhnya zina itu adalah satu perbuatan keji dan membawa kerosakkan."
(Surah Al-Israk ayat 32)

Berdasarkan ayat ini apa sahaja perbuatan yang boleh membawa kepada gejala zina seperti pergaulan bebas lelaki dan perempuan, pendedahan aurat, membaca buku-buku dan majalah lucah, melawati laman-laman web lucah serta menonton VCD / DVD yang membangkitkan selera syahwat hukumnya adalah haram.

Sahabat,
Marilah kita jauhi dan cuba membaiki masyarakat kita supaya gejala sosial yang parah seperti berzina ini dapat kita elakkan berlaku. Semua pihak samaada ibu bapa, guru-guru, jabatan agama Islam, jemaah Islam, persatuan bukan kerajaan (Islam), pihak penguasa polis . Rela, majlis perbandaran dan ahli jawatan kuasa masjid hendaklah bersatu tenaga menyekat dan menghalang daripada perkara maksiat berlaku dimerata tempat. Ketegasan pihak berkuasa adalah amat diperlukan untuk mengenakan undang-undang yang lebih tegas untuk mereka-mereka yang berdua-duaan dan menghampiri zina. Sekiranya diperingkat awal dapat dicegah maka gejala zina dan buang anak akan dapat di atasi insya Allah.

Kedua : Kejahatan menderhaka kepada kedua ibu bapa.

Islam meletakkan kewajipan terhadap setiap anak agar mentaati ibu dan bapa. Perintah itu bukan setakat meletakkan seseorang anak melakukan kebaikan, tetapi sebagai bukti keimanan dan ketaqwaan.

Sesiapa yang menderhaka terhadap ibu bapanya bakal menjerumuskan dirinya ke dalam api Neraka.

Firman Allah bermaksud: “Kami perintahkan kepada manusia supaya berbuat baik kepada kedua- dua ibu bapa.”
(Surah al-Ahqaaf, ayat 15)

Firman-Nya lagi bermaksud: “Sembahlah Allah dan janganlah kamu menyekutukan-Nya dengan sesuatu pun. Dan berbuat baiklah kepada kedua-dua ibu bapamu, kaum kerabat, anak yatim, orang miskin, jiran tetangga sama ada yang dekat atau yang jauh, rakan karib dan ibnu sabil, serta hamba sahaya.”
(Surah an-Nisa, ayat 36)

Jelas, betapa pentingnya setiap anak menghormati ibu bapanya. Sesiapa yang derhaka terhadap ibu bapanya, maka Allah memberi balasan azab di dunia lagi.

Rasulullah menjelaskan orang yang tidak menghormati orang tua sebagai bukan daripada golongan Muslim.

Sabda Rasulullah bermaksud: “Bukanlah daripada golongan kamu, sesiapa yang tidak menghormati orang tua kami dan tidak pula mengasihi anak kecil kami.”
(Hadis riwayat Tabrani).

Hadis itu menjelaskan ‘tidak menghormati orang tua’ sudah dianggap boleh bukan daripada golongan Muslim. Apa lagi jika tidak menghormati orang tua yang menjadi ibu bapa sendiri. Kini menular gejala anak menganggap satu beban terpaksa menjaga atau melayan kerenah ibu bapa atau salah seorangnya. Tidak kurang juga kes anak menjadikan ibu atau bapa tidak ubah seperti orang gaji.

Menyakiti hati ibu bapa satu dosa besar. Apatah lagi dalam kes yang mana anak melakukan perbuatan yang mencederakan fizikal ibu bapa. Undang-undang manusia juga melarang sebarang perbuatan mencederakan fizikal terhadap seseorang. Hukuman daripada Allah tentulah lagi besar menanti di akhirat.

Anak derhaka kepada ibu bapa tidak mendapat berkat dalam kehidupan. Perhatikan nasib mereka yang membelakangi ibu bapa dalam kehidupan. Biarpun, secara luaran nampak ceria dan berjaya, hakikatnya mereka dalam pembalasan daripada Allah.

Pelbagai bentuk pembalasan daripada Allah diperlihatkan kepada anak derhaka. Kemelut kehidupan yang dihadapi kebanyakan manusia sekarang berpunca daripada menderhaka kepada ibu bapa.

Allah bukan saja melarang melakukan perbuatan yang secara nyata menyakiti hati dan fizikal ibu bapa, bahkan menyebut perkataan ‘kasar’ juga ditegah. Allah memerintahkan agar anak bercakap dengan bahasa yang baik dengan ibu bapa.

Firman Allah bermaksud: “Tuhanmu telah memerintahkan, supaya kamu tidak menyembah selain Allah, dan hendaklah berbuat santun terhadap kedua orang tua. Jika salah seorang telah lanjut usianya, atau kedua-duanya telah tua, janganlah sekali-kali engkau berani berkata ‘ah’ terhadap mereka dan janganlah engkau suka menggertak mereka. Tetapi berkatalah dengan sopan santun dan lemah lembut.”
(Surah al-Isra, ayat 23).

Kewajipan anak terhadap ibu bapa berterusan biarpun ibu bapa sudah lama meninggal dunia.

Ketika ditanya oleh seorang sahabat daripada kaum Ansar mengenai masih adakah tanggungjawabnya terhadap ibu bapa yang sudah meninggal dunia, Rasulullah menjawab dengan sabdanya bermaksud: “Ada, iaitu berdoa, beristighafar untuk kedua-duanya, menyempurnakan janji, memuliakan sahabat taulan kedua-duanya dan menyambungkan silaturahim yang tidak sempat dijalinkan oleh kedua-duanya.”
(Hadis riwayat Abu Daud dan Ibnu Majah).

Sesungguhnya beruntunglah sesiapa yang memiliki anak yang soleh yang memberikan balasan kebaikan kepadanya biarpun sesudah meninggal dunia. Anak soleh adalah kebaikan yang tidak putus-putus pahalanya.

Sabda Rasulullah bermaksud: “Apabila meninggal seseorang itu, maka terputuslah segala amalannya, melainkan tiga perkara iaitu sedekah jariah yang berterusan memberi manfaat, ilmu yang memberi kebaikan diajarkan kepada orang lain dan anak yang salih yang sentiasa mendoakan kebaikan kepada kedua ibu bapanya.” (Hadis riwayat Muslim).

Daripada Abdullah bin ‘Amru bin al-‘As r.a., bahawa sesungguhnya Rasulullah Shallallahu 'Alaihi Wasallam bersabda: “Sesungguhnya diantara dosa-dosa besar ialah seseorang itu melaknat (mencaci maki) kedua-dua orang tuanya (ibu bapanya),” lantas ditanyakan kepada baginda: “Wahai Rasulullah, bagaimanakah seseorang boleh melaknat (mencaci maki) ibu bapanya sendiri?”.

Lalu Rasulullah Shallallahu 'Alaihi Wasallam menjawab: “Seseorang melaknat (mencaci maki) ibu atau bapa orang lain (kerana sebab-sebab tertentu), maka orang tersebut membalas cacian itu dengan mencaci maki (melaknat) ibu bapa yang mencacinya”.

Berdasarkan kepada hadis tersebut juga maka dapat disimpulkan bahawa Islam bukan sahaja menjadikan perbuatan menderhaka kepada ibu bapa sebagai dosa besar, malah perbuatan mencaci maki, laknat melaknat yang membabitkan mereka juga dikategorikan sebagai dosa besar.

Caci maki ibu bapa orang lain, serupa mencaci ibu bapa sendiri. Sesorang mungkin tidak menyedari bahawa dengan mencaci maki ibu bapa orang lain juga dikira seolah-olah mencaci ibu bapa sendiri. Itu semua tidak sepatutnya berlaku dikalangan orang-orang yang mengaku beriman kepada Allah dan hari akhirat.

Sabda Rasulullah Shallallahu 'Alaihi Wasallam yang bermaksud :
“Barangsiapa membuat ibu bapanya gembira (memberi keredhaan), maka sesungguhnya ia membuat redha Allah. Barangsiapa menyakitkan hati ibu bapanya, maka sesungguhnya ia membuat kebencian Allah.”
(Hadis riyawat Imam Bukhari )

Nabi Shallallahu 'Alaihi Wasallam bersabda yang bermaksud :
“Dosa yang paling besar ialah mensyrikkan Allah , derhaka pada ibu bapa dan membunuh orang.”
(Hadis riwayat Anas bin Malik)

Sahabat yang dikasihi,
Banyak kita mendengar kisah-kisah benar berlaku apabila seseorang menderhaka kepada kedua ibu bapanya maka balasannya akan diterima di dunia lagi secara tunai. Kisah seorang sahabat Nabi Shallallahu 'Alaihi Wasallam bernama 'Alaqamah telah menyakiti hati ibunya bila di saat dia nazak dia tidak dapat mengucapkan kalimah syahadah hinggalah ibunya memaafkannya barulah dia boleh mengucapkan kalimah syahadah.

Kisahnya seperti berikut :
Pada suatu ketika di zaman Rasulullah Shallallahu 'Alaihi Wasallam, seorang sahabat Rasulullah Shallallahu 'Alaihi Wasallam bernama ‘Alaqamah, apabila ajalnya sudah hampir tiba, keluarganya sudah berkumpul dan mereka mengajarkan untuk mengucapkan kalimah “Laa ilaaha illallaah” beberapa kali tetapi sia-sia. Mulut ‘Alaqamah terkunci. Akhirnya mereka sampaikan kepada Rasulullah Shallallahu 'Alaihi Wasallam, dan baginda menyuruh beberapa orang sahabat melihat akan hal itu, keadaan ‘Alaqamah tetap seperti itu juga tidak berubah, mulutnya tetap terkunci.

Nabi Shallallahu 'Alaihi Wasallam menyuruh agar membawa ibunya kepada baginda. Setelah tiba ibu ‘Alaqamah, baginda bertanya mengenai diri ‘Alaqamah, dan ternyata dia agak kecil hati pada anaknya, dan dia tidak mahu mema’afkan kesalahannya.

Dengan helah Nabi Shallallahu 'Alaihi Wasallam mengatakan kepada para sahabat yang ada di sana, supaya mengumpulkan kayu kering, dan tatkala ditanya sahabat apa gunanya, Nabi Shallallahu 'Alaihi Wasallam mengatakan untuk pembakaran ‘Alaqamah di hadapan ibunya. Mendengar yang ‘Alaqamah akan di bakar, maka ibunya dengan menangis, mengatakan, agar janganlah anaknya di bakar, dan dia bersaksi kepada Allah dan Muslimin yang ada di majlis itu mengatakan redhalah akan ‘Alaqamah, dan mema’afkan akan dia.

Setelah itu Nabi Shallallahu 'Alaihi Wasallam menyuruh sahabat menjenguknya . Belum sempat mereka mengajarkannya lantas ‘Alaqamah terus mengucapkan kalimah “Laa ilaaha illa llaah” dengan fasih dan lancar , dan dia pun mati dalam kalimah itu.

Sahabat,
Hanya mereka-mereka yang beriman dan bertaqwa saja dua kejahatan yang termasuk di dalam dua dosa besar dan disegerakan balasannya di dunia ini dapat dijauhi. Kerana iman yang tertaman dihati ini akan melahirkan jiwa yang taat dan patuh kepada Allah s.w.t. dan menjauhi segala dosa dan larangan daripada Allah s.w.t. Jika kita telah melakukan kesalahan dan dosa segeralah bertaubat kepada Allah s.w.t dan mohonlah ampun kepada kedua ibu bapa sebelum mereka kembali menemui Allah s.w.t dan ketika itu penyesalan tidak berguna lagi.