~ Unconditional Love 1 ~

Unconditional Love .....


We all go through the lessons our life presents us. Because of these lessons we learn to accept and love unconditionally others and ourselves. I believe the final goal of our life is to learn to love unconditionally.
It's easy and hard at the same time.

People often ask me "what is unconditional love?" Before I answer this question it is important to find out what conditional love is. Conditional love is love that we experience if certain conditions are met. Such as "if you behave yourself I will love you" type conditions. "If you do what I want you to do then I will love you" - this is another example of a conditional love. "If you don't cheat on me I will love you", "if you give me money I will love you" etc. In other words we love conditionally only when others meet the conditions we impose on them, when we love others for something they do to us.

Here is a couple of questions:

Can you accept anyone as he/she is?

Do you want others to accept you as you are?

Look at yourself closer. Listen to yourself. Listen what are the conditions are you making in your mind. Many of those conditions reside on a subconscious level. But you can see them as a reflection in your current situations, in those problems that you meet every day. They are the message to ourselves. We so dislike some things in ourselves. And exactly the same things we dislike in others and cannot accept them even in close friends and relatives. Every single one of us needs love. Our friends and relatives need our love too.

Unconditional love emerges when we love and accept ourselves, when we love and accept other people, as they are not as what we want them to be. Don't force onto them what would you like them to be, say, wear and do. It
only shows you what you would like to have in yourself. So if you want become such a person don't force someone else other than you. Others have their own tasks to perform and lessons to learn in this world. They did not come into this world to accomplish your tasks and learn your lessons. They came here to live their own life not yours, which in your opinion may not worked out as you wanted to. Don't even try to change the world without changing yourself. Don't try to change you neighbor. It is the way for violence in this world. This can turn your world into hell. Change yourself first. We are changing the world by changing ourselves. If we change then our circumstances also change. The whole life will change. The change will not come overnight but it will come if you have patience. Our outer world is a reflection of our inner state.

Unconditional love is something that any woman feels once she has a baby and holds him for the very first time. Have you seen such a moment? She is glowing in love. That's why people say love is light. A mother loves her baby unconditionally. Baby doesn't allow her to get enough sleep, sometimes he can hurt her, he takes up all her time but she loves him. Loves unconditionally. After a few months conditional love starts to creep up. It gradually substitutes unconditional love. A mother says: "If he slips and doesn't cry I love him, if he gives me time for my own business I love him." Otherwise she gets upset and angry with her baby and this anger and resentment will charge a little baby emotionally so he will attract those emotions in the future. That's the way our mind works.